you are "good enough".
There is something that has been really laid on my heart lately and it's bothered me a lot the past few weeks. I have noticed lately how girls have little self worth, and how they never feel "good enough", and I'm preaching to the choir. I myself struggle with this so much but It wasn't till recently where I noticed that so many other people do as well.
I'm going to be real with you. I have constant thoughts that run through my head on a daily basis how I'm not good enough because I can't write, I can't sing, I don't have the perfect body like the ones on the fitness Instagram accounts, I don't dress like all those Pinterest girls, I'm not talented enough, my photography is not good enough, I'm not smart enough and the list goes on. I'm constantly looking at other photography pages and just getting down because I'm like wow I'm terrible, these people are awesome.
These are all lies.
I've been struggling with constantly comparing my life, my skills, my photography & just everything to others & I've let it get to me. I cannot compare my life to someone's highlight real. I need to seek God & let Him fulfill me because He is the only one who can and those are not thoughts of The Lord. Were all in different seasons of life, not making one better than the other. I need to live in the now and have holy confidence in my work & in my life & I encourage whoever is reading this too!
Don't judge or base your life upon other peoples highlight reals. those are just the highlights, be content where the Lord has you, because your there solely for His purpose. God knows what He is doing, trust Him.
Don't take this the wrong way, I'm a pretty confident person. But it doesn't matter how confident one person is, they will always have these negative thoughts floating around in their head.
"Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." - 1 Peter 5:8
Every negative thought about yourself is from the devil, he will try anything and everything to pull us down and away from Christ. Our job is to ignore those thoughts and crush the enemy by giving it to God when we have them.
So I want to tell you one of my favorite stories I like to tell people and especially my small group of girls on Sunday mornings. It's kind of a gross and slightly an embarrassing one but it's great I promise.
A while back I got the wonderful gift of scabies. If you don't know what scabies are they are small bugs that jump on you and get under your skin and move around and they itch really bad. They look like this......
you're welcome... haha
Here is an actual picture of one of my wrist with the scabies, because who doesn't take pictures of their scabies, right?
Well these little guys only attacked my weakest spots on my body... Being that I was a competitive cheerleader, of course some of my most weakest spots are my wrist and ankles. They also attacked my knees and my lower back and the scar on my chin from a surfing incident. All places where I have pain and where it's the weakest on my body. If your picking up what I'm putting down then you notice how my scabies seem very similar to someone we all know and hate.
Just like my scabies and how they attacked me the devil is the same way. He knows your weak spots and he knows where your pain is and that is where he is going to attack you. The devil knows that I struggle with not feeling good enough so he uses that in every aspect of my life.
Now what do we do when that happens, when the devil is full on attack mode?
We ninja drop kick him.
I have learned that when I'm in the word each morning and constantly in devotion with my Lord and Savior that these thoughts disappear and aren't there as much.
Each morning I ask The Lord to fill me with his confidence, help me to feel my worth. Because guys you are so worthy. It doesn't matter what your past looks like or what you did last night. You are worthy! We have an almighty creator/heavenly father who loves us unconditionally (sings Katy Perry's unconditionally), who never forsakes us. He is always there and loves us no matter what.
"For you formed my inward parts you knitted me together in my mother's womb.I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Believe that) Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth." Psalm 139:13-15
If you are struggling with constant negative thoughts that aren't from The Lord maybe you need more of Him in your life and less of something else. Let God be the one who guides you through your day and directs your thoughts, not social media, other peoples opinions, or the thoughts the devil plants in our mind to destroy us.
I want to encourage you to make it a point to get in the word every morning before you do anything else, not just read it but study it. Maybe you already do this, I don't know. But talk to God and give it to him because God would never plant those thoughts in your head because he looks at you and sees his precious and beautiful creation. He awaits on you every single day. So rest in Him, ask Him to fill you with His holy confidence and to feel His worth.
Remember: Who are we to define what makes us "good enough", just because your not a public speaker, have a fancy job, up on stage singing, don't have the "coolest" Instagram photos, or don't have the nicest car, home, or clothes does not define who you are and your worth. The only one who defines you is Jesus Christ.
Kristen Brooke Carden
photo credit: Joylita Photography